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Nov 2, 2012 11:27 PM

I met my husband in 1992. We have lived together since then and have vowed ourselves as husband and wife (no ceremony; just before God). We call each other husband and wife. We both had been married multiple times in the past but neither of us were Christians at those times. We raised 6 children between us but it was always a yours and mine type of thing. This caused a great deal of tension but we stuck it out. My husband was diagnosed in 1995 with multiple health issues that has kept him from having a real job. He has tried to do several at home type jobs but they never panned out and we always lost money. We even lost our home due to our business failing. My biological children do not like my husband at all and my daughter refuses to even be in the same house with him. She also will not allow me to see her children (but that is for other reasons for which I have tried to appologise for but to no avail.) Now my husband is locked into this depressive downward spiral. According to him no one appreciates him (not even me) or cares about him. No matter what is said or done we are trying to hurt him. He is a diabetic and when I say he can only have one small piece of dessert he says I am trying to deny him food. When he is caught sneeking food (he and I are both on a diet) he denies eating anything even when there are pictures to prove it. He constantly belittles my family and children but his family and children can do no wrong. My son moved in with us about a month ago (he is a chef) to help teach us some new ideas on eating healthier and my husband belittles him for doing this. My husband used to go to church and was very active until about a year and a half ago when he had to have surgery. Ever since then he has been even more irritable and refuses to go to church. He has even stated that God does not care about him or our relationship. He has also stated that God will not do anything about my relationship with my daughter. I am at a loss as what to do. I have tried to talk with our pastor but he seems unable to help. We are new to the area where we live and therefore have few friends. I have tried to explain to him how I feel but it seems as if it goes in one ear and out the other. I really do not know what to do and am willing to listen to any advice that anyone may have.

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